Advertisement

   Journal    Friends    Archive    User Info    Memories
 

roaringwomyn - Rest In Peace Roh Wright

Mar. 12th, 2007 11:42 pm Rest In Peace Roh Wright

I reeived a phone call from my dear friend Josie in the UK tonight.. telling me our friend Roh had been killed on Friday night. She'd been riding her bike in London and was hit by a truck.

My grief is so right now that I almost feel like I've been hit by a truck.

I look at photos and I'd never noticed how inadequate they seem before. The smile on her face seems not even half of the way it really happened. How it would begin as a little smirk, a smile and then when really happy a big grin. How it lit up her whole body and she radiated with such a loving energy. I can't believe I'll never see her smile or laugh again. It really was a beautiful thing. I know people always say these things after death but it really  is true.

I came to know her in 2005  (as Rosie) when she was travelling here and Josie had told her to get in touch with me as she didn't really know anyone. We really clicked and became close friends just as I was near leaving for the UK.. but she was soon to join me back in her home country in a couple of months. I wish I'd seen her more during that trip.

It seems so unfair when Roh had really only just started to explore who she was... only starting to explore her gender queer identity withing the last 10 months or so. Everytime I heard from her things were hard but she seemed happy and enjoying the challenges.

I wish I'd made more effort to contact her, keep in touch, even email more. Just today I was seriously thinking to email her. She really was one of those amazing, close people you meet in your life, regardless of how far we lived I still felt close to her and knew things would be the same when we met up again... someone you just click with and feel so comfortable with. She was such a great support always. I could talk to her about anything and she'd just listen, unjudgementally and always had something useful to say. I think maybe we were so close cause we really understood each other.. so many commonalities about emotions and how we dealt with life. But there's also so much I'll never know about her too.

It doesn't feel right. One day she's just not here. And I feel so far away.

I feel there's so many gaps right now. And I have little ways to fill them. I can't believe she's gone.

Leave a commentPrevious Entry Add to Memories Tell a Friend Next Entry

Comments:

From:[info]mistressfi
Date:March 13th, 2007 12:45 am (UTC)
(Link)
I am really sorry for your loss.
She sounds like an amazing person.
Hug.
From:[info]roaringwomyn
Date:March 13th, 2007 02:27 am (UTC)
(Link)
thankyou.. she was amazing. It's so weird to be so far away.. I'm gonna miss her.
I've spent alot of the morning copying photos and emails onto the one CD.. and coming unstuck on the words like 'some day'.. 'in the future'. Life is so unjust.
x
From:[info]totali_trashi1
Date:March 13th, 2007 11:17 am (UTC)
(Link)
sorry to hear this. there should be safe bike lanes everywhere.
From:[info]roaringwomyn
Date:March 14th, 2007 11:43 pm (UTC)
(Link)
thanks cotton x
From:[info]andre_janus
Date:March 13th, 2007 01:59 pm (UTC)
(Link)
Aw babe, so sorry to hear this...

WTF is going on at the moment? Too many friends grieving lost ones at the moment, really isn't fair

X
From:(Anonymous)
Date:March 14th, 2007 11:44 pm (UTC)
(Link)
yes the world is such an injust place.
Thanks for your concern and message.x
From:[info]snooza_smurf
Date:March 17th, 2007 09:13 am (UTC)
(Link)
* Big Hugs* Much love to you babe call me if there is anything I can do
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 14th, 2008 08:57 pm (UTC)
(Link)
I met Roh/Rosie in July of 2006 at Club Wotever in London. I didn't know anyone in London and xe befriended me. We went swimming in the lady's bathing pond amongst the lilies, drank beer along the south bank, and wandered the city late at night, all the while talking about gender and how to dismantle binaries. I wondered why xe stopped responding to my emails last year, and now I know why. What a loss for the world.

 

Advertisement